No one ever tells you it will be this hard.  

Caregiving…Watching Someone Die.  

I’ve read every book, watched every movie – no one talks about the real stuff.  

About a year and a half ago Duane told me that after this was all said and done I needed to write a book about all of it…”but just the good stuff” he said.  That’s the problem, everyone talks about the good stuff and the good times and how important it is to stay positive.  

No one writes about the hard times and the horrific times.  About how it is okay to not be positive, to have a bad day, to cry in the shower.  No one admits it’s hard, it’s exhausting, it’s sad and it’s lonely.  No one talks about dealing with in-laws and friends and doctors and nurses and those people that are always right there to tell you what you are doing wrong.

There is no book explaining THE STUFF.  The stuff that you don’t even think about, the stuff that completely throws you for a loop.  The stuff you are so caught of guard by all you can do is freak out.  The stuff you are not prepared for because no one warned you about it!  

That’s the book I would buy.  

– xoxo Victoria